Thanks for all the messages about incidents of autism in older men, like Paul Dacre. I’ve been wandering around Africa with my man (hot and amazing but tiring) so not had much time to reply.

It’s actually a really interesting topic.

Autism is a “social connectivity” disorder, a lot of older people do have it. More children are diagnosed now.

As this is a compassionate and teachable moment, I feel I should offer some advice to Malaysians based on my knowledge of Paul Dacre (and information others have given me on him).

Paul Dacre spends ages having a “fantasy life” which is very detached from reality. But most people do notice and find him ridiculous, or easy to exploit

One thing my friends noticed in the Paul Dacre and Malaysian mob harassment of me was how Dacre and most Malaysians are compulsive liars.

Malaysians (especially those who speak English) sound stupid and dishonest and weird.

Malaysian English-speaking journalists lie about their experiences in England – they pretend they are elite or super-powerful or have authority.

Most of it is just photoshoots, or Malaysians talking to someone at a big event (who is not their friend). Or stupid Malaysians trolling everyone.

This reminds me of my experiences with journalists and Paul Dacre.

Paul Dacre spent most of his life (before dementia symptoms/autism really got worse) pretending he was part of the Royal Family and the English “upper class”, paying for Public Relations companies to pretend he was better than he was.

Paul Dacre also likes to pretend he is part of some “masculine traditional” culture.

(Dacre’s parents are divorced, he runs away from people he is scared of, and he makes money through stalking women and mentally unwell/vulnerable people. When I tried to talk to Paul Dacre to stop him stalking me, he ran away and asked others to harass me to “punish” me).

Malaysians should not get caught up in the culture of lying and PR. Build in private.

Like Paul Dacre, many people don’t trust things Malays say, and find them ridiculous.

Don’t “punch down” or be an aggressive “arse-kisser” or a “beg” or a “pick-me”. No-one likes or trusts cowards or bullies

Like Malays, Paul Dacre is a coward and a bully.

He was and is obsessed with stalking and attacking me (as someone he saw as an “easy target” to bully and harass).

When he is “grovelling” and “praying” to certain groups …they didn’t actually want him.

Paul Dacre is desperate to enter “elite circles”, but he is seen as too aggressive and volatile and reactive.

He is embarrassing to be linked to.

Successful men don’t like Paul Dacre near their wives and daughters as he gossips and gets jealous and has explosive meltdowns (especially if Paul thinks their wives are prettier or classier than Kathleen Dacre….)

If Paul Dacre feels rejected or jealous or doesn’t get what he wants (for autistic children this is called “Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria“) he threatens to start a hate mob and ruin people’s lives.

This reminds me of Malaysians.

I think a lot of people see Malaysian behaviour and don’t want to be linked to them.

Malays are: desperate and humble when dealing with European people, or Arabs, or people from “rich” countries

However, they are spiteful and controlling and patronising to people they see as a “soft target”. For any outsiders, seeing the way the “Malay mob” harassed me…..they don’t want to marry Malays, or be connected to their crazy aggressive culture.

No-one likes “pick-me coward” Paul Dacre. Don’t be a “pick-me”

Stop trying to “reach out” or dominate spaces you are not part of. Be private. Concentrate on yourself. Find a private hobby. Leave people alone.

Due to his autistic “hyper -focus”, Paul Dacre obsessively stalked, and continues to stalk me.

Some other journalists reported they had walked out of a meeting with him as Paul Dacre was STILL obsessing about setting up a “campaign” to stalk me and other non-white women.

None of us are (or were) celebrities or in the entertainment business. Paul Dacre was just sitting there ranting about us.

Journalists are all dishonest and sleazy, but Paul Dacre is too sleazy for them!

Unfortunately, despite being obsessed and hyper-focussed on young Asian women, Paul Dacre cannot study, read, do anything which involves focus.

If Paul Dacre wants to learn Chinese he has the time and money (and learning a language might have delayed his dementia symptoms) but now he just sits and either says nothing or rants.

At 70, Dacre has to walk around verbally stimming and compulsively shouting his “opinions” and “autistic emotions” at people.

(Obviously this is part of Paul Dacre’s disability, and autism at his age would not have received any medication or treatment. I think trauma of masking his autism meant he just got obsessed with me. But it is still creepy for me).

Malaysians often spend ages (years?) on the Internet trying to get into spaces online, or writing Malay messages to women on the Internet who don’t even live in Malaysia?

Malaysians – please learn from Paul Dacre. Concentrate on your own lives. No-one wants your “Malaysian opinions”. Have “special interests” that aren’t just “gossiping about women on the internet”.