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Sufiah Yusof Oxford 2021 – Letter I have sent today – not sure this will work but that’s the horror of media harassment. Sent to the Mail, Mail on Sunday, the Times, Sunday Times, Mirror, Guardian, Telegraph, Sunday Telegraph, the Sun, the Express, the BBC, and Paul Dacre (via Kathy Dacre) to see if that can stop harassment. Plus other organisations – its horrific thinking of how many there are and they all “work together and pass on information” to specifically blackmail their target and damage them as much as possible to “get the story”


Dear Sir/Madam

My name is Sufiah Yusof.

I am writing as your newspaper/media organisation and its employees and freelancers have an established record of bullying and harassing me in order to print articles designed to violate my privacy.

This has caused me huge sadness and distress, damage to my health and relationships, and disruption to my life over the years.

Although there is clearly absolutely no “beneficial public interest” in my private details (other than that which you and your colleagues chose to create to generate reads and views sales) this has been completely life-destroying.

I note these include:

  • As a child, my painful personal and private details were repeatedly published to millions of readers in a sensationalist, dishonest, manipulative, aggressive, and abusive way
  • I was completely “dehumanised” for clicks and reads.
  • Stalking me at any location I was at and publishing details “to give your readers updates”. This was done in very calculated way – plotting in advance to target any “events” in my life. 
  • Amplifying this harassment by goading my (clearly abusive and estranged with very little mental capacity to understand what you were doing) parents into co-operating with articles to encourage others to “track me down” and using this as a “device” to stalk me and to emotionally blackmail me and damage me.
  • A News UK/Mail senior journalist/editor, Keith Gladdis filming me naked when I was 23 and in a very vulnerable position to blackmail me into giving an interview.
  • Doing your best to manipulate me in a very cunning and calculated way – not just one rogue journalist, but teams collaborating behind the scenes to exploit any vulnerabilities I had.
  • This would be done to create a narrative that I was “co-operating with you” and “publicity-seeking” and “consenting to this harassment” and “agreeing to give interviews and private details” so I could never get any support against your stalking.
  • Further, blackmailing me and setting me up and linking me to as many “controversial emotional issues as you could” (sex, religion, child abuse). Turning every action I did into a “global reality show” with no privacy.
  • So you could completely isolate me from mainstream society, turn me into some “celebrity” figure so there was more profit on stalking me in future, lure any predators to me, and induce as much everyday harassment as you could, and destroy any chances of a dignified private life.

Over time, I feel that this desire to harass has not waned. 

  • You and your colleagues know that you can get profit/clicks/reads for stalking and harassing me, so feel I am “a good target” as any “access” will be “worth it in sales”. You like to target vulnerable people.
  • You want revenge for me having built a low-key private life where I have (somewhat) escaped you and your colleagues stalking, abuse and harassment.  
  • An aim of targeting me during my childhood was to “build me up” with as many over-emotional, grandiose claims as possible for a global audience, so you could continue to profit from stories about me and turn me into a “cash cow” as you would completely destroy any chances I had of a dignified private life and force me into a situation so I would have to live from selling my story.
  • Your goal was collaborate with your media colleagues to create a situation where you had complete control.
  • I would be able to access no support from anyone or move forward with my life, as you would have ensured I was presented as a “freak” who no normal person would want to engage with, and whose only social contacts were journalists and other predators wanting to make money out of me.
  • If I didn’t “co-operate” and give up, and offer up details of my life and turn my life into a “public child abuse story” where I was set up like I was on a freak-show, for titillation and reads and clickbait, you’d simply stalk and bully me and do it anyway.
  • However, even with no resources or powerful friends, and having to work around both your well-funded stalking and harassment (and a very damaged, estranged, and unsupportive family with very poor social boundaries and regard for privacy) I was able to avoid this.
  • I feel this will have enraged you as you have “lost your cash cow” and desire for control.
  • You want revenge for me having called out you and your media colleagues for your behaviour on my blog www.inquiringfeminist.com and my Twitter account.
  1. I understand Caroline Gidman (Caroline Gladdis), the wife of the journalist who filmed me naked (Keith Gladdis) is a former employee of the BBC/the Sunday Times/the Wright Stuff.
  1. I note all of these organisations have specifically sought to target me since I started my blog, contacting me in “pretend friendly way” whilst clearly looking to exploit any vulnerabilities and “set me up”.
  1. Me speaking about my trauma caused by her husband’s abuse seems to have caused Caroline Gidman to want to use her contacts to “get even” with me, or “set me up” so I look like I’m “publicity seeking” to conceal what Keith Gladdis did to me.
  1. Keith Gladdis used his mother Patricia (Trish) Gladdis’s or his sister Rebecca (Becki) Gladdis’s e-mail account to attempt to plant cocaine on me before filming me naked in Manchester (the e-mail IP address came from an account at Manchester Metropolitan University, where Trish Gladdis worked and Becki Gladdis studied).
  1. This level of potential criminal harassment – planting drugs on someone – is a well-known technique used by the News of the World which I expect still is used by its former employees, and fills me with complete fear.
  1. By speaking out against someone like Keith Gladdis (I understand he is responsible for other harassment via his tabloid journalism, so I feel it is helpful and in the public interest to be aware of what his family can do) I may have made myself vulnerable to a repeat of this.
  1. Although I use social media and blogging unpaid and in my spare time (and not for fun – I do not enjoy being “out there” or the kind of people it draws to me, but simply to protect myself and as some way to have a small voice against your well-resourced teams of bullies) I have noted and made records that you and your colleagues are clearly “monitoring what I write”.
  1. I believe there may now be motivation for still regaining control of me and causing maximum harassment and abuse, and to damage my mental health and credibility so that I cannot speak out against you and am left vulnerable.

I believe that rather than contact me directly via my blog (where there is a clear contact form) or Twitter (where I am clearly active), so I can decline contact with informed consent, you will be aiming to harass and blackmail me.

Based on past experience, this may be:

  1. Doxxing” me – printing my address, colleagues names, location, relationship details, workplace details, recent photos of me, to violate my privacy.
  • Targeting anyone connected to me so you can “extract” information from them, or pretend to just be “having a chat” then printing it like they’ve been “giving an interview about me”. This will be done to isolate me and leave me threatened and paranoid.
  • Door- stepping and contacting any estranged family members I have who I have not seen in many years (who are severely mentally vulnerable, some who don’t even speak English as a first language – and have very poor social boundaries and awareness of privacy) to “get a comment about me” and mention me to them to “goad them into a reaction”.
  • Or – as the Times and the Mail did at my wedding – simply give them my location and details to encourage them to turn up and cause a physical confrontation.
  • And then publish this to “humiliate me” and “get at me” and force me “comment in reply”.
  • Basically exploit any private tension and mentally unwell people to cause a horrendous public confrontation that would not have occurred without your manipulation.
  • And then use this as a tool to harass me and publish my personal details and pretend you’re “giving my family a voice, knowing I’ll then have been blackmailed and forced into a situation where I cannot complain.
  • Accessing any driving licence records or medical records or other records to illegally obtain my address so you can doorstep me. Or even worse, as Keith Gladdis tried to do, plant illegal substances on me. Basically anything so I can be “set-up” and bullied.
  • Collecting information and working out when the “best moment to target me” is to create maximum disruption so I cannot seek help and my life is as damaged as possible.
  1. Writing some (allegedly nice) “faux praise/faux concern/general interest” article, but throw as many details of me in to completely violate my privacy and “start a feeding frenzy” with other media organisations getting in on the action and encourage a global audience to “discuss every aspect of my life” and stalk me.
  1. Obtaining details about me, then contacting me to directly blackmail me and threatening “the story will be out there” unless I co-operate and give what looks like a “consensual interview”.
  1. Or contacting me to lie and make things up to manipulate me – claim to be “wanting a comment on something different” or offering a work or charity opportunity. Or make things up and claim you want to “help” me and encourage me not to confide in the police or anyone official.
  1. Then force me into something completely different, centre me in the article, present me in a certain way, and give my details without my consent.
  1. Doxxing” me by publishing personal identifiable details to “feed” online harassment.
  1. Using any student journalists or freelancers or private investigators or local newspaper journalists or working behind the scenes with other journalists to “do your dirty work” for you.
  1. Trying to bully and isolate me by contacting everyone connected with me and claim to be “having a casual chat” to get information about me or attributing quotes to them, to make me feel paranoid and like I have to “police “ every interaction I am in.
  1. And – even worse – to make me think I can’t trust anyone and try to make me “confront everyone I know” when it’s your manipulation that has done this. If this is done, this is clearly “targeted harassment of me”, and not people I know volunteering to give interviews about me!

I write to formally record that I am and have been living in fear

I have and will always have to take many, many precautions due to your horrendous behaviour and motives.

This is harassment and coercive control.

You want to use your immense resources and me to “give in” to your power by “having to co-operate with journalists and give my private details” or “they will stalk me anyway”, at great personal cost and distress and humiliation.

I request you desist from this course of stalking, harassment, and bullying, or any others not listed above which you may choose to take.                                                    

Sufiah Yusof

Kathy, James Dacre, David Robson and media bullying – this is the post Paul Dacre wanted taken down


Journalists – despite feeling empowered to control, dominate, and abuse others they see as “in a vulnerable situation” are very thin-skinned and “like playing the victim” themselves.

It seems stalking and harassing me since I was 12, threatening to ruin the privacy of anyone I was associated with wasn’t enough for Paul Dacre.

I will always live with the scars and trauma and practical consequences of Dacre’s abuse of me and his desire to use me as a little emotional fuck-toy, probably goaded and encouraged by his socially climbing wife.

This started when I was 12 and will never stop.

Not only do I have to live a life being constantly vigilant and “watching my back”, the “hideous global mob” the media had got to follow me around is still something I have to watch for.

Paul Dacre worked with other media to tailor their coverage of me to ruin my mental health and get an audience of crazy people to contact me at every occasion they could.

This crazy audience would be “let loose upon me” to continue the abuse job Dacre had started and “force” me to discuss child abuse and how weird my life was and what a freak I was.

Dacre wanted to use the power of the Mail so my mental health would be broken, and I would be forced to relive painful experiences every day and at every location I was at – Dacre wanted “a bounty on my head“.

This abuse of me, coupled with abuse of other women and people in vulnerable situations has won Paul and Kathleen Dacre money and power beyond their wildest dreams.

Living on a country estate, millions of pounds in the bank from whipping up hate, Paul and Kathleen Dacre socialise with Prime Ministers and millionaires, collaborate with other editors so “no-one could ever speak back against them“.

All the media “left vs right” debate is a show for the public. The tabloids, the BBC, the Guardian – they all employ the same people and try to keep control of anyone they target.

I was frequently stunned when “within a short space of time” I found myself stalked and targeted by journalists from different organisations .

The Guardian would turn up one place, the Times would have someone going through my bins and “doorstepping” the parents of anyone I dated.

(I was informed that when trying to get to me through others the journalists would ALWAYS say “oh, you know about her background? Let me tell you…“.

What the journalists wanted was for anyone I socialised with to think I was some crazy person who was going to “sell stories on them” and be bullied and ostracised as a result).

The Mail would be goading and encouraging my mentally ill parents into “physically harassing me“.

The aim was “punishment” – the media wanted to let me know “they had the resources and willpower to stalk me indefinitely, they were in charge” and me “rebelling by refusing to give tacky interviews to the media” would ensure they “kept the stalking and pressure up and would destroy my life either way”.

It was hard to complain as “I didn’t know who was doing it“. Like many abuse victims, I had no safe spaces – I felt like I was going mad and no-one would believe me.

Especially as the media coverage was designed so that me complaining about their harassment would be “drowned out” by all the horrible ugly people (mainly Malaysians) screaming I was a “freak genius prodigy” and “privileged” and “wanting to talk about my private life“.

So if I complained my privacy would be abused further.

Now that I am less naïve and others have shared their viewpoints I’ve realised “I’m not going mad and wasn’t going mad and it wasn’t one person I knew informing on me” – the media “works together” to destroy and bully people and sharing information is part of this.

The media sees itself as a “power group” to itself and is desperate to keep its control strong and profit margins high.

The dishonesty, exploitation, vindictiveness, and vile behaviour is common across all publications.

Journalists pretend to have “different points of view” but enjoy fat salaries for doing nothing but abusing and manipulating people they think are vulnerable who can generate “clickbait”.

The Guardian and the BBC will and would attack anyone Paul and Kathy Dacre took a dislike to.

As soon as I started this blog, the BBC (namely David Robson, well-known at Cambridge for abandoning the pressures of maths, not getting the degree class he wanted for the world of the media/”self-help books”) mysteriously appeared and wrote a spiteful article about me.

David Robson then tried to “threaten/blackmail me into giving an interview to correct it”.

This would prevent me from ever speaking about media abuse, as I would then be seen as “asking for it” or “using the media to promote myself”.

This was clearly a “deal” made in which David Robson had been asked by the newspapers to set me up as “publicity-seeking” to stop me talking about media abuse, then be rewarded by getting positive reviews of his self-help books from other media organisations.

This is the equation of how the media works to “keep power” and “stop any victims from speaking out”.

Kathy Dacre is an ambitious theatre academic (who didn’t make it as an actress).

sorry for not getting back earlier this isn’t a professional blog!

I was contacted by someone who said over the years, the London theatre community has noted how magazines regularly “accidentally” wrote negative reviews of productions Kathy Dacre didn’t like, or printed unflattering photos of successful young actresses she thought were prettier or classier than her.

But no-one dares speak out due to Paul’s media power.

Over her life and career, Kathy Dacre has had every privilege due to to her millionaire husband being “the most powerful man in Britain“.

The Guardian ran a sycophantic piece about Paul and Kathleen’s son James Dacre on how “nice and hardworking and privacy loving he is“.

(forgetting to mention that Paul regularly lunched with the Guardian editor at the time. Oh, don’t forget, most of the people the Mail targets ARE privacy loving apart from the spiteful Mail journalists stalking them and forcing their details out there).

My contact told me Paul even paid for elocution (“speaking posh English”) lessons for Kathleen Dacre soon after he started work as an editor, as he was getting so rich through tabloid gossip her accent didn’t match their income.

And now? Me writing one quick, amateur post JUST TO PROTECT MYSELF and my privacy is not allowed?

My partner at the time I started this blog had to protect me and help me recover my mental health from media abuse WHILST SERVING IN THE MILITARY whilst Paul and Kathleen were merrily living in the lap of luxury fuelled by hate, tabloid gossip and cowardice.

My (ragtag) band of friends had to defend me (as a broke, slut-shamed woman with loads of spiteful people setting me up and a hideous online global mob following my every steps).

Whilst Kathleen Dacre has used her husbands money (earned from hatred and humiliating and abusing women of colour) to be seen as the “pinnacle of womanly beauty and success”.

Kathy Dacre WON. Well done Kathy.

I’ve just received a notification from my Google contact a “formal complaint has been made” from Kathleen Dacre (she needs to complain about THE WHOLE OF THE DAILY MAIL if she’s worried about privacy being protected)

Oddly enough, when I started this blog I actually said rather than post, I’d be happy to debate Paul Dacre in person. I wanted to understand the situation and his motivations better.

Guess the answer…

Despite being confident about targeting me as a younger woman, despite being confident when he knew he could “weaponise” my severely mentally ill parents against me, Paul Dacre chose to “hide” then.

And, of course secretly discuss with his racist abuser Foreign Editor Keith Gladdis and his sneaky wife Caroline Gidman to get David Robson from the BBC to try to target me instead.


Here’s my post – before it gets taken down!


One of the worst harassers and abusers of me was former Daily Mail editor, Paul Dacre.

His decision to “lead a campaign of abuse” against me in my teenage years was and is clearly a “dog whistle” for other journalists out there.

Once the Mail was stalking me and damaging me and targeting anyone I knew, then other media organisations could “innocently” follow up and claim “the story was out there” so they “may as well comment”.

That’s the “business model” of the Press – use tabloids first to do the dirty work, then the BBC and the (allegedly) serious newspapers would continue attacking whoever they had targeted and violating their privacy.

Once he established my father was mentally ill and had no boundaries, Paul Dacre decided I was to be “targeted” by the Mail as much as possible.

(I was 12 at the time)

The catalogue of abuse consisted of:

  1. Sending photographers to access me and just take photographs of me so he could have a “collection” to print whenever he wanted.
  2. These would be frequently printed just so that “I would have no privacy” and anyone around me would identify me and I could be harassed.
  3. Sending one of his most spiteful, racist, vicious writers (in true ‘Mail’ form, he sacked her later on when she “got too old” and got cancer) to make up a horrific story attacking my personality and claiming I was “making comments about my tutor behind her back“.
  4. Paul Dacre made sure he printed photographs of me regularly, and then followed up with readers letters criticising me all during my teenage years.
  5. After I detached from my abusive parents and the Mail couldn’t just “ask my violent father to get at me”, Dacre was furious.
  6. I had escaped from his control.
  7. Paul Dacre was furious. He then sent photographers and a team to stalk me and publish my details at any location he could find.
  8. Paul Dacre asked them to obtain details of who I was speaking to, who I was working with, anyone I’d had an interaction with and then would print a completely vitriolic article both attacking me and making it clear anyone associated with me or supporting me against the Mail would be targeted and their privacy destroyed.
  9. When he heard I was being divorced, Paul Dacre asked his journalists to “track me down” and pass the information onto my violent father so he could follow me and attack me.
  10. Keith Gladdis filming me naked for the News of the World was “rewarded” by Dacre with a Mail editor position.
  11. Ben Ellery, who targeted me only last year is an experienced former Mail on Sunday journalist who is notorious for “appalling abusive Mail behaviour”
  12. Ben Ellery has been identified on social media for having “worked on the racist campaign to stop Harry and Meghan getting married by stalking her abusive mentally ill father and setting him up to humiliate and harass Meghan on her wedding day”.
  13. I have no doubt Ben Ellery and his colleagues had and will have similar intentions to “work behind the scenes” to damage me.

Paul Dacre thought because of my parents behaviour, I would be a “easy target for life“.

As a young female he could exploit misogyny and racism and completely dehumanise me and turn me into a “freak” or a “laughing stock”.

Painful, private, traumatic details could be forcibly extracted and “used as a talking point” online by other journalists and complete strangers gleefully enjoying the chance to bully anyone (even vaguely) associated with Oxford.

Paul Dacre could use the Mail to regularly whip up an unpleasant controlling global mob to “violate my privacy” and get others to stalk me and damage me.

He and his newspaper would have complete control and could stalk and harass me for life.

But I thought “that’s not right” and that made him angry.

One thing I have learned and I am SO glad to know it just wasn’t me, is the Press will “lash out” at anyone who won’t speak to them.

They need “access” to people.

My abusive father was severely mentally ill, not working apart from living off my student scholarships, and gave nasty tabloid journalists complete access to me.

Journalists had clearly identified early on that my parents were not working and had never worked and lived a very strange, isolated, degraded lifestyle.

The journalists had clearly checked with all the neighbours and worked this out and simply “kept the information on file for any journalist to use“.

After I left home, the media would regularly print/hint that I was “coming from a rich home” and just “wanted to rebel against my religious parents and didn’t like science“.

(the media knew full well my parents had never worked, never attended mosque/masjid).

What the media wanted to do was to get others to think I was a “rebellious rich girl” so that I could be “tracked down” and punished as they knew I wouldn’t give them “access” to write abusive bullying articles the way my parents did.

No boundaries were set.

Early on, one reporter would make a nasty spiteful comment to “test the water” to see how far they could go

My ridiculous, mentally deranged parents would not have any sense of dignity or privacy, but still agree to more “access” to humiliate me.

It was “open season” after that for every media organisation including the Times and the Mail – they realised I was a “cash cow” they could control, humiliate and exploit for money for life.

I made the decision to leave my family.

And of course journalists “lost their guaranteed access to me” as a result.

This was the reason for the stalking and the spate of horrific articles on me.

There was clearly no public interest in getting my parents – two clearly very mentally ill people to humiliate themselves regularly for millions of viewers and readers.

The goal was to “punish me” for not talking to the media and setting up a situation where I felt I’d “have to give my side of the story” in the most horrific sensationalist way possible, or they’d continue to violate my privacy by printing nasty articles featuring my mentally ill abusive parents centred on me and “asking that I be returned to them”.

Paul Dacre is a notorious coward, perhaps inherited from his father Peter Dacre.

(Peter Dacre refused to serve in WW2 as he thought he would make slightly more money from stalking and running gossipy stories about women, and then got really angry when he “felt left out and not as good as other men”).

This means he does not want to respond when I have asked him to undo the damage he has done and use his contacts to stop this horrendous campaign of abuse that HE started against me.

I use this post to formally note Paul Dacre has not responded to the letter I sent asking him to stop this harassment via his wife, Kathy (Kathleen Dacre)

I also note that a recent Twitter follower of mine is “Amardeep Bassey” who is a former Mail journalist and may have been “assigned the job” to harass me in the future.