20/4/22
Journalists – despite feeling empowered to control, dominate, and abuse others they see as “in a vulnerable situation” are very thin-skinned and “like playing the victim” themselves.
It seems stalking and harassing me since I was 12, threatening to ruin the privacy of anyone I was associated with wasn’t enough for Paul Dacre.
I will always live with the scars and trauma and practical consequences of Dacre’s abuse of me and his desire to use me as a little emotional fuck-toy, probably goaded and encouraged by his socially climbing wife.
This started when I was 12 and will never stop.
Not only do I have to live a life being constantly vigilant and “watching my back”, the “hideous global mob” the media had got to follow me around is still something I have to watch for.
Paul Dacre worked with other media to tailor their coverage of me to ruin my mental health and get an audience of crazy people to contact me at every occasion they could.
This crazy audience would be “let loose upon me” to continue the abuse job Dacre had started and “force” me to discuss child abuse and how weird my life was and what a freak I was.
Dacre wanted to use the power of the Mail so my mental health would be broken, and I would be forced to relive painful experiences every day and at every location I was at – Dacre wanted “a bounty on my head“.
This abuse of me, coupled with abuse of other women and people in vulnerable situations has won Paul and Kathleen Dacre money and power beyond their wildest dreams.
Living on a country estate, millions of pounds in the bank from whipping up hate, Paul and Kathleen Dacre socialise with Prime Ministers and millionaires, collaborate with other editors so “no-one could ever speak back against them“.
All the media “left vs right” debate is a show for the public. The tabloids, the BBC, the Guardian – they all employ the same people and try to keep control of anyone they target.
I was frequently stunned when “within a short space of time” I found myself stalked and targeted by journalists from different organisations .
The Guardian would turn up one place, the Times would have someone going through my bins and “doorstepping” the parents of anyone I dated.
(I was informed that when trying to get to me through others the journalists would ALWAYS say “oh, you know about her background? Let me tell you…“.
What the journalists wanted was for anyone I socialised with to think I was some crazy person who was going to “sell stories on them” and be bullied and ostracised as a result).
The Mail would be goading and encouraging my mentally ill parents into “physically harassing me“.
The aim was “punishment” – the media wanted to let me know “they had the resources and willpower to stalk me indefinitely, they were in charge” and me “rebelling by refusing to give tacky interviews to the media” would ensure they “kept the stalking and pressure up and would destroy my life either way”.
It was hard to complain as “I didn’t know who was doing it“. Like many abuse victims, I had no safe spaces – I felt like I was going mad and no-one would believe me.
Especially as the media coverage was designed so that me complaining about their harassment would be “drowned out” by all the horrible ugly people (mainly Malaysians) screaming I was a “freak genius prodigy” and “privileged” and “wanting to talk about my private life“.
So if I complained my privacy would be abused further.
Now that I am less naïve and others have shared their viewpoints I’ve realised “I’m not going mad and wasn’t going mad and it wasn’t one person I knew informing on me” – the media “works together” to destroy and bully people and sharing information is part of this.
The media sees itself as a “power group” to itself and is desperate to keep its control strong and profit margins high.
The dishonesty, exploitation, vindictiveness, and vile behaviour is common across all publications.
Journalists pretend to have “different points of view” but enjoy fat salaries for doing nothing but abusing and manipulating people they think are vulnerable who can generate “clickbait”.
The Guardian and the BBC will and would attack anyone Paul and Kathy Dacre took a dislike to.
As soon as I started this blog, the BBC (namely David Robson, well-known at Cambridge for abandoning the pressures of maths, not getting the degree class he wanted for the world of the media/”self-help books”) mysteriously appeared and wrote a spiteful article about me.
David Robson then tried to “threaten/blackmail me into giving an interview to correct it”.
This would prevent me from ever speaking about media abuse, as I would then be seen as “asking for it” or “using the media to promote myself”.
This was clearly a “deal” made in which David Robson had been asked by the newspapers to set me up as “publicity-seeking” to stop me talking about media abuse, then be rewarded by getting positive reviews of his self-help books from other media organisations.
This is the equation of how the media works to “keep power” and “stop any victims from speaking out”.
Kathy Dacre is an ambitious theatre academic (who didn’t make it as an actress).
sorry for not getting back earlier this isn’t a professional blog!
I was contacted by someone who said over the years, the London theatre community has noted how magazines regularly “accidentally” wrote negative reviews of productions Kathy Dacre didn’t like, or printed unflattering photos of successful young actresses she thought were prettier or classier than her.
But no-one dares speak out due to Paul’s media power.
Over her life and career, Kathy Dacre has had every privilege due to to her millionaire husband being “the most powerful man in Britain“.
The Guardian ran a sycophantic piece about Paul and Kathleen’s son James Dacre on how “nice and hardworking and privacy loving he is“.
(forgetting to mention that Paul regularly lunched with the Guardian editor at the time. Oh, don’t forget, most of the people the Mail targets ARE privacy loving apart from the spiteful Mail journalists stalking them and forcing their details out there).
My contact told me Paul even paid for elocution (“speaking posh English”) lessons for Kathleen Dacre soon after he started work as an editor, as he was getting so rich through tabloid gossip her accent didn’t match their income.
And now? Me writing one quick, amateur post JUST TO PROTECT MYSELF and my privacy is not allowed?
My partner at the time I started this blog had to protect me and help me recover my mental health from media abuse WHILST SERVING IN THE MILITARY whilst Paul and Kathleen were merrily living in the lap of luxury fuelled by hate, tabloid gossip and cowardice.
My (ragtag) band of friends had to defend me (as a broke, slut-shamed woman with loads of spiteful people setting me up and a hideous online global mob following my every steps).
Whilst Kathleen Dacre has used her husbands money (earned from hatred and humiliating and abusing women of colour) to be seen as the “pinnacle of womanly beauty and success”.
Kathy Dacre WON. Well done Kathy.
I’ve just received a notification from my Google contact a “formal complaint has been made” from Kathleen Dacre (she needs to complain about THE WHOLE OF THE DAILY MAIL if she’s worried about privacy being protected)
Oddly enough, when I started this blog I actually said rather than post, I’d be happy to debate Paul Dacre in person. I wanted to understand the situation and his motivations better.
Guess the answer…
Despite being confident about targeting me as a younger woman, despite being confident when he knew he could “weaponise” my severely mentally ill parents against me, Paul Dacre chose to “hide” then.
And, of course secretly discuss with his racist abuser Foreign Editor Keith Gladdis and his sneaky wife Caroline Gidman to get David Robson from the BBC to try to target me instead.
Coward).
Here’s my post – before it gets taken down!
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One of the worst harassers and abusers of me was former Daily Mail editor, Paul Dacre.
His decision to “lead a campaign of abuse” against me in my teenage years was and is clearly a “dog whistle” for other journalists out there.
Once the Mail was stalking me and damaging me and targeting anyone I knew, then other media organisations could “innocently” follow up and claim “the story was out there” so they “may as well comment”.
That’s the “business model” of the Press – use tabloids first to do the dirty work, then the BBC and the (allegedly) serious newspapers would continue attacking whoever they had targeted and violating their privacy.
Once he established my father was mentally ill and had no boundaries, Paul Dacre decided I was to be “targeted” by the Mail as much as possible.
(I was 12 at the time)
The catalogue of abuse consisted of:
- Sending photographers to access me and just take photographs of me so he could have a “collection” to print whenever he wanted.
- These would be frequently printed just so that “I would have no privacy” and anyone around me would identify me and I could be harassed.
- Sending one of his most spiteful, racist, vicious writers (in true ‘Mail’ form, he sacked her later on when she “got too old” and got cancer) to make up a horrific story attacking my personality and claiming I was “making comments about my tutor behind her back“.
- Paul Dacre made sure he printed photographs of me regularly, and then followed up with readers letters criticising me all during my teenage years.
- After I detached from my abusive parents and the Mail couldn’t just “ask my violent father to get at me”, Dacre was furious.
- I had escaped from his control.
- Paul Dacre was furious. He then sent photographers and a team to stalk me and publish my details at any location he could find.
- Paul Dacre asked them to obtain details of who I was speaking to, who I was working with, anyone I’d had an interaction with and then would print a completely vitriolic article both attacking me and making it clear anyone associated with me or supporting me against the Mail would be targeted and their privacy destroyed.
- When he heard I was being divorced, Paul Dacre asked his journalists to “track me down” and pass the information onto my violent father so he could follow me and attack me.
- Keith Gladdis filming me naked for the News of the World was “rewarded” by Dacre with a Mail editor position.
- Ben Ellery, who targeted me only last year is an experienced former Mail on Sunday journalist who is notorious for “appalling abusive Mail behaviour”
- Ben Ellery has been identified on social media for having “worked on the racist campaign to stop Harry and Meghan getting married by stalking her abusive mentally ill father and setting him up to humiliate and harass Meghan on her wedding day”.
- I have no doubt Ben Ellery and his colleagues had and will have similar intentions to “work behind the scenes” to damage me.
Paul Dacre thought because of my parents behaviour, I would be a “easy target for life“.
As a young female he could exploit misogyny and racism and completely dehumanise me and turn me into a “freak” or a “laughing stock”.
Painful, private, traumatic details could be forcibly extracted and “used as a talking point” online by other journalists and complete strangers gleefully enjoying the chance to bully anyone (even vaguely) associated with Oxford.
Paul Dacre could use the Mail to regularly whip up an unpleasant controlling global mob to “violate my privacy” and get others to stalk me and damage me.
He and his newspaper would have complete control and could stalk and harass me for life.
But I thought “that’s not right” and that made him angry.
One thing I have learned and I am SO glad to know it just wasn’t me, is the Press will “lash out” at anyone who won’t speak to them.
They need “access” to people.
My abusive father was severely mentally ill, not working apart from living off my student scholarships, and gave nasty tabloid journalists complete access to me.
Journalists had clearly identified early on that my parents were not working and had never worked and lived a very strange, isolated, degraded lifestyle.
The journalists had clearly checked with all the neighbours and worked this out and simply “kept the information on file for any journalist to use“.
After I left home, the media would regularly print/hint that I was “coming from a rich home” and just “wanted to rebel against my religious parents and didn’t like science“.
(the media knew full well my parents had never worked, never attended mosque/masjid).
What the media wanted to do was to get others to think I was a “rebellious rich girl” so that I could be “tracked down” and punished as they knew I wouldn’t give them “access” to write abusive bullying articles the way my parents did.
No boundaries were set.
Early on, one reporter would make a nasty spiteful comment to “test the water” to see how far they could go
My ridiculous, mentally deranged parents would not have any sense of dignity or privacy, but still agree to more “access” to humiliate me.
It was “open season” after that for every media organisation including the Times and the Mail – they realised I was a “cash cow” they could control, humiliate and exploit for money for life.
I made the decision to leave my family.
And of course journalists “lost their guaranteed access to me” as a result.
This was the reason for the stalking and the spate of horrific articles on me.
There was clearly no public interest in getting my parents – two clearly very mentally ill people to humiliate themselves regularly for millions of viewers and readers.
The goal was to “punish me” for not talking to the media and setting up a situation where I felt I’d “have to give my side of the story” in the most horrific sensationalist way possible, or they’d continue to violate my privacy by printing nasty articles featuring my mentally ill abusive parents centred on me and “asking that I be returned to them”.
Paul Dacre is a notorious coward, perhaps inherited from his father Peter Dacre.
(Peter Dacre refused to serve in WW2 as he thought he would make slightly more money from stalking and running gossipy stories about women, and then got really angry when he “felt left out and not as good as other men”).
This means he does not want to respond when I have asked him to undo the damage he has done and use his contacts to stop this horrendous campaign of abuse that HE started against me.
I use this post to formally note Paul Dacre has not responded to the letter I sent asking him to stop this harassment via his wife, Kathy (Kathleen Dacre)
I also note that a recent Twitter follower of mine is “Amardeep Bassey” who is a former Mail journalist and may have been “assigned the job” to harass me in the future.
Inquiring Feminist by Sufiah Yusof 