A couple years ago (practical reasons) I temporarily flatshared with a weird Indian scientist bloke who started screaming at me that I had “ruined my life” when I chose not to finish at Oxford.
No friend of mine – partially because I had a established social life and was short on time.
(Sneaking to late night library sessions with big mugs of coffee, temp work at a gourmet food shop.
Slow-cooked chicken curry and Turkish films at my then boyfriends place)
But also because (his judgemental attitude aside) he gave off a weird vibe and no woman liked him.
He ended up in trouble for stalking and harassing a blonde woman, one of those Asian people whose life mission is to “get back at whitey” – his obsession with Oxford was part of that.
My theory is that the media coverage on me, with Oxford, was more about people being generally resentful and unhappy and feeling there is this “big intellectual world” they aren’t part of.
They like to think there are these “genius” people who Do Stuff and would rather read about the trials and tribulations of these “genius” people then challenge themselves?
The mainstream media panders to their resentfulness: it’s easier than emotionally getting on with their own lives.
Oxford is a cool place but very irrelevant.
Obviously no life is perfect and mine has it’s challenges, but I learn stuff every day – nothing impressive, but try to keep going (with a nervous “oh fuck” grimace sometimes), cheerily binge on art and opera
even have time to cycle in pretty dresses along rivers I didn’t use a bike at Oxford ha ha.
I suppose it’s what Paul Dacre calls the “metropolitan elite”, women who may or may not have degrees but are intuitive enough to not get into a worked up jealous state like Trish Gladdis or Mary Dacre and project all their resentment and ambition onto their children.
I like my life and get on with it, I find it ridiculous and out of touch to get involved in “accepting” or “denying” I’m a genius when it is all part of a manipulated media fairytale?
In this talk on women and genius (EXCELLENT and well worth watching) Greer’s take on it is that women have more holistic, engaged view of life and creativity?
She reckons men (historically – and this is sexism against them, too) have been more concerned with social status and not on “making” for it’s own sake?
Intuitively, I agree with her.